Supporting families communication with children's educators and others

Families might have certain activities to remember the parent. e.g. going to the grave, collecting poppies. It is important to establish new ways of commemorating that fit with the individual family.

Families might need to remind their child's educators about important days related to the deceased parent, such as:

  • Anzac Day
  • Remembrance Day
  • anniversaries
  • birthdays
These days may be commemorated by family, and the child might not be attending the service or school.

Be aware that these events may also be emotional triggers, and that there may be a process of re-grieving. Family members should be prepared to be asked to be involved with ceremonies and commemorations, and remind them that it is their personal decision as to the level of involvement they wish to engage in. Their wishes might change as time passes, but they should not feel pressured. Some people find comfort in such events, whereas others can be distressful.

Anzac Day, Lest We Forget

People respond to tragedy in various ways, which include pity. It can be very difficult to be on the receiving end of pity at times. Some may feel overwhelmed by the level of pity, making it difficult to move forward. Pity can often drag someone back to the challenging times when they are focused on finding positivity as their life moves forward.

Be aware of feelings and children's emotions and work out what is appropriate on these days. It may be more appropriate to suggest that the family stay home and cook a parent's favourite meal, light a candle in memory of them and enjoy a game or a movie that they enjoyed.

It is okay if families change how they commemorate these days over time. This is a natural process.

Remembrance Day, Poppies, Red, Flower

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